Eight ways to crash through the comfort barrier.

Having trouble shaking off the feeling that you’re meant for more?

That the life you’re leading at the moment seems to be at odds with what lights you up, gets you excited and uses your skills?

So often, fear holds us back. We bed down in our comfort zone, convinced that we don’t have the strength or skills to break free of it. We’re nervous and uncertain about what others will think of us and what will happen if we fail.

Will we be able to pay the mortgage? Will we let our colleagues down? Will there be any way back to safety when we’ve left it?

Your brilliance is innate

I believe that every one of us is an important piece in the large puzzle of life and when we find that place, we find more meaning and worth than we’ve ever felt before. The world becomes a better place, and we find ourselves doing what feeds the soul.

Sounds really simple, doesn’t it? And if it was, people like me wouldn’t have a job.

Over the years, I’ve seen clients go on to achieve things beyond their imagination. Here is what I’ve learned in that time in the form of eight transformative steps.

1. Ask yourself what’s the cost of staying in your comfort zone. The longer we stay there, the more energy and courage we need to get out. As we neglect them, our needs start to atrophy and we start to shrink. We’re missing out on the exhilaration of growth and seeing what we’re capable of if we stretch further than where we think our limits are.
   
   Zooming out, we’re denying the wider world our talents and skills. The empathy, wisdom and connection unique to us and that could transform the lives of others lies unused in a bottom drawer.

2. If you have a gnawing doubt deep down that life is slipping through your fingers, bring it out into the open. There’s no time like the present to do something about it.  Constant resistance to this kind of niggle eventually numbs your senses and flatlines your motivation.
   
   Your spark dulls and as you tell the same story over and over again to those around you, they watch your glimmer dim. Rather than seeing this as negative, recognise it as a chance to inspire others into living a life of their own design.

3. Get the right people around you. Those who will lift you up and believe in you can also be an anchor point of trust when life tries to knock you off course.
   
   What skills do you need to teach yourself or find in another? What kind of energy do they need to have and how can the relationship be rewarding and reciprocal?

4. Admit that you’re in a comfort zone. Seek out a safe place to voice this with someone who will compassionately keep you accountable.
   
   By doing this, you’ll level up from awareness towards forming a plan and making a commitment.

5. Visualise what life would be like on the other side. Imagine if you stepped out and into your ideal life right now, what would it feel like?
   
   Conjure up the details: what would it look like? Who would you have around you? What sensations would you get?  Surrender ‘the how’ at this point.

6. Remember the last time you were brave. I remember in November 2021 I decided to go live on Facebook for 100 days, which was terrifying at the time. What would I say? Would anyone show up and listen? Would I be talking to myself? Would I run out of ideas?
   
   None of my fears came true. In time, I felt comfortable in front of the camera and was able to show up even when I felt vulnerable. I enjoyed interacting with my audience, and I look back on that time with some fondness. How can you do the same?

7. Do something to take the situation out of your hands. Whether that’s announcing a launch or getting other people on board, putting it out there brings with it an additional level of commitment.
   
   It’s also more tangible and real. Your confidence is shored up by the people who join you on your journey because they believe in you.

8. Cross the chicken line. This is the line my clients cross to take them deeper into their destinies. Have you done this before? Who helped you to get there? What skills did you build? What kind of strategy did you put together, and what research did you need to do?
   
   How can you recreate that push? What’s going to get you over the line?

Confession time

I’m going to be honest, I’ve been feeling a little stuck myself lately. This year has been one of change as my husband and I have adjusted to a life that has turned out different to what we had expected. One constant has been the joy and fulfilment I experience through working with my clients.

But I’ve been looking for fresh inspiration, a new challenge to work on and I believe I’ve stumbled upon it.

I found my 100 Facebook lives so rewarding that I’ve decided to launch a podcast in the new year. Reaching out to a new audience means I’ll be able to share more of my journey and what I’ve learned as a coach.

My hope is to get as many people as possible across their own chicken line and into a life they love.

Stay tuned for details.

I’ll be sharing the launch progress during December and I’d love you to join me, so if you’re as excited as I am, please follow my socials.

I hope you find my safety barrier smashing tips helpful – this is how I work and my clients love the results. Get in touch to find out more about how I can help you too.